#ForTheGirlWho.... Dating, Friendships, and Talking About Jesus

"I'm a kingdom Chic"... "Child of the most high God"... "I don't drink"... "I'm not having sex"... "I want a God fearing man"... These are all confessions that I have been making recently. I've been saved almost all of my life but I did not always feel comfortable talking about my religion publicly. So does that mean I don't truly believe in it? I have friends of many different faiths, Christians, Muslims,  and Jews you name it, who had no problem telling me about what they believe in. If I were being 100% honest I would say that I was afraid of being that "debbie downer" or "buzz kill" that sounded "too preachy" but over the last year I have grown closer to God than I have ever been in my entire 25 years on this earth. Now everyone might not believe in the same God that I believe in, however each religion does have it's particular way of living. So my question is, how do you transition from living one way to another?

For me it was something that has become easier and easier as the day goes by. For me it has been the fact that I have been super consistent in going to church and surrounding myself with people who are already living the way that I want to live that has allowed me to have the confidence to even write this post. It all starts with yourself. 

#StuffWeLove: 'Dior: Strip Club Diaries #1' by Keshia 'Dior' Floyd

A few years ago when I first started blogging I met a blogger out of Miami by the name of Dior. A few months after I had been networking with her I took a trip to Miami for the first time, met up with her and she took very good care of my friend and I. Helped us get a nice hotel, showed us around, even picked us up when we went out. Over dinner one night I had the opportunity to pick her brain and I soon discovered that this woman was much more than a blogger. She was in every sense of the word a "hustler." I was having dinner with one of the top promoters in the city! In the hour that we sat there she changed my whole perspective of strippers and even plastic surgery. The most interesting thing I learned about her is that she is a former dancer (exotic dancer) turned entrepreneur and now she can add author to her resume. 'Dior: Strip Club Diaries #1' is Dior's unfiltered autobiography of her life before, during, and after her time on the stage. I recently got a chance to catch up with the author to talk about her very first book! Check it out.

#ForTheGirlWho... Dating and Celibate

Ok, so recently I made the decision to take the vow of celibacy. For me the decision was partly religious based and also partly based on the fact that I suck at being able to tell a man's intentions. So instead of beating around the big sexual elephant that is in the room when it comes to dating, I figure it's easier to talk about celibacy versus leading someone on. Its been about two months now and I have to say that so far its really not that bad. Of course my girlfriends had slick remarks about my decision because I haven't really been dating. "Soon as you get close to someone that vow is going right out of the window!" Way to have faith in me right? Well although I've contemplated this decision many times before, I'm in this one for the long haul. So I figured I'd share what has been the most effective in this process.

Introducing... '#OnAir with InTheMixxer'

I'm back on the airwaves! That's right, I've worked so hard to get back on the air and I couldn't be more excited about it. This time, this show, is 100% me! Introducing "#OnAir with InTheMixxer" Tuesday and Thursday nights from 10pm-12am on HIPHOPHIGHLIGHTS.COM HipHopHighlights is an online based station that can be accessed from your PC or mobile phone. Click listen live from your PC or download the TuneIn app and search HipHopHighlights. Have an android? Download the exclusive HipHopHighlights mobile app found in the android market, and if you love iTunes radio we're on there too!

#OnAir is a late night show designed to bring the essence of INTHEMIXXER.COM to the airwaves mixed in with mainstream and indie music as well as the personality you all know and love! ME! The first month has been amazing with nonstop interviews with people like Amir Driver (aritst), Mike Lambert (personal trainer), the Cardinal Cloth crew (clothing line), and more! If you would like to be featured on an episode of #OnAir send me a detailed email with your brand information to INTHEMIXXER@CRCDJS.COM and make sure you are tuned in!

-@InTheMixxer

#HigherLearningDC

So here's and update with me. I haven't been blogging much because I have literally been SWAMPED with work. But trust me that's a very good thing. I'm back on the airwaves (internet airwaves but thats where I flourish lol)! I'll get into all of those details in my next post.

At the end of this year I will be relocated from Virginia Beach to Southern Maryland (about 30 mins outside of Washington, DC) and because of the fact that i will be so close to a major metropolitan area I have been making trips back and forth to do as much networking as possible before I make the move. Last weekend I attended an event in the SouthWest area of DC called "Higher Learning DC." It was a networking/showcase event that brought out vendors and artist from all over the east cost to get together. What made this event especially unique was the venue. It was held at a church turned art gallery called the "Blind Whino." This place was AMAZING inside and out. Everywhere you looked, there was art. On the walls, no literally, the walls were covered in grafiti and artwork from artist all over. The concept is really dope actually. You can see the building a few blocks down the street the colors are so bold and bright. It kind of changes the whole dynamic of the neighborhood.  I've never really been an art buff but I could really appreciate the work that I saw hanging on the walls in the different rooms throughout the building.

#TastyTuesdays: Eating Right On Vacation (13MAY14)

*Sigh* Vacation... The downfall to all the hard work you've done to prepare for the vacation in the first place.. Is the actual vacation! It's our excuse to eat any and everything we can think of, and drink until we sweat alcohol through our pores. Right? ... WRONG!

This past weekend I took a few days off to get some sun in Jacksonville and St Augustine, FL. If you know me I love eating at places I can't usually get to day to day. For Example Krystal's Burgers and Whataburger are two of my personal favs (I'm ashamed just saying that lol). 

So soon as I touched down I went to Krystal's and grabbed a bottle of Peach Ciroc on my way back to my friend's house. TURN UP! Lol

Fast forward to the next day... I felt like shit. I'm always trying to justify that the reason I prefer shots over mixed drinks is because it's less calories, which is true but I eat like a crazy person when I'm drunk so what's the point? 

Anyway of course you're not always gonna have the luxury of a stove when you're on vacation but I you do I would recommend going to the nearest Walmart and stocking up. I immediately bought 2 gallons of water, a bunch of fruit, egg whites, turkey bacon, chicken breasts, and steam bag veggies. Stuff that's quick and easy to make. Yea I still had a few snacks here and there but majority of what I ate was better for me than the little chicken sandwiches and alcohol I had on Friday. 

For The Girl Who... Finds Out That He's Married (13MAY14)

 Ok so I've gotten quite a few emails on this topic and I will tell you it is a touchy one. I am not married nor have I ever been married so this will be strictly from a single woman's point of view and shouldn't be taken offense by anyone.

So you're dating a guy, he seems perfect. Treats you like a queen, takes you out on dates, introduces you to his friends, the whole shebang. Then one day it's almost like you are in an episode of Being Mary Jane... You find out that he's married! WHAT THE HELL DO YOU DO?! Do you leave him? Do you hear him out? Do you want to know the extent of the marriage? WHAT DO YOU DO?

Me? I'd RUN. Fast as all hell. One of the relationships I have been in that I'm not too proud of is that I was head over heals in love with a married man. I tried to justify this love with the fact that he had been separated over 7 years and had been in multiple relationships before he was with me... so what was the big deal? We were living together, talked about having kids, we were "engaged", and I had even met his wife! WTF was I thinking?! 

Before you go judging me let me put you up on game real quick. At the time he was in the military and when you are in the military and you are married you are given a certain amount of extra allowances to take care of your family needs ie. clothing, food, home etc. So because my ex wasn't serious about anyone before me he never divorced his wife because he would lose money. Instead he would just break her off a few dollars every month. They did this for SEVEN YEARS! And when I came around no matter how serious we got... he wasnt gonna divorce this woman unless we were all standing in front of the court house together like "Hey i wanna occupy the wife slot she's currently occupying so he doesnt lose money."

So why do I feel like you should run from a man that's married even if he is separated?  Because what I eventually learned is that MARRIAGE is MARRIAGE and at any moment even years later he could've left me and went back to his wife... because what was he holding on to? I feel like it had to be more than the money. But those vows he took before God with that woman meant clearly NOTHING to him. He might have at one point loved her... but eventually it was nothing more that convenience. So if I married him, I would eventually just be something that was convenient as well.

The point of the story is to know your self worth. Have enough respect for yourself not to step into quicksand. I know you hear it often but "there are plenty of fish out there" and its true... You don't have to eat someone else' fish. 

Good luck doll,

- @InTheMixxer